NO REGRETS
Regrets are decisions that we’ve made in the past that we can not go back and change. Let’s face it, regrets are inevitable. We’ve all felt regret from time to time. But, do you find yourself, living in the past and replaying old regrets over and over again? Do you want to move on from these past regrets and stop living in the past?
Here are some tips.
REFLECT. There is nothing wrong with reflecting on the past and possible regrets you may have. But, are you reflecting on them for the right reasons? Are you reflecting on past mistakes or regrets to the point that it is affecting your everyday life? If you don’t know if this applies to you, try this. The next time you find yourself going back to the past, allow yourself to reflect, acknowledge that you regret the decision that was made, and instead of being stuck in that mind frame, go further. Find a lesson. What did you learn from this regret? What decision would you make next time? Once you have those questions answered, you can move on. You will be able to move on because in a way you’ve told yourself that you are letting go of the regret and you are ready to move forward and make better decisions.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. It’s time to take responsibility for your life. It’s easy to blame other people for your life. Listen, life is hard, we all go through tough times. Some experience harder times in life more than others and that’s ok. Acknowledge that. But, to let hard times in your life become the reason for you to not move forward in life is damaging. I know it’s hard for some who have maybe overcome some traumatic experiences. I, too, am still healing from traumatic situations in my childhood. But, what I have been doing to help cope is not letting it control my life. I have been looking at what I have and expressing gratitude for the life I have and live. So, when you find yourself using your hardships as reasons to not grow, acknowledge that you did endure those hardships, and express gratitude for what you have now.
COMFORT. It is so easy to stay in your comfort zone. And it’s easy because it’s where you are most comfortable. It’s familiar, it’s what you are used to. But, familiarity can sometimes prevent you from growing. Growing can be scary, because it’s unknown. But, growing is good for you. For example, after a child learns how to crawl, the next step would be to learn how to walk. And although the process and experience may be scary at first, eventually it will happen for the growth of the child. Similarly, in order to grow we are going to have take our “first steps” and although it might be scary at first, in the end you will be the one to truly benefit from your growth.
The last tip is an important one.
CHERISH YOUR GIFT. The past is full of regret, the future is full of anxiety and the present is full of gifts. It’s as simple as that. Instead of focusing on your regrets and things that may or may not happen in the future, put some if not most of your focus on the here and now. Look around you, what are you most happy about right now? Forget about what others are doing. Put the phone down, stop scrolling. Take in your life around you and cherish it.
I guarantee that if you try these tips, life will be a little easier, and most importantly you will be much happier.
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