I want you to stop what you’re doing and just clear your mind. Stop thinking about what you’re going to have for dinner or who’s coming over on Friday. I want you to just let your world stop for a minute and take 6 breaths in and out. Slow breaths. I want you to really feel yourself letting go.
Letting go.
Such an important skill. And the amazing thing about skills is that you can continue to improve them. So, you never just master a skill and then that’s it. You keep building on it.
Let’s talk about letting go. In this article, I am going to list 10 things you can do to assist in helping you start to let go.
DROP THOSE EXPECTATIONS. GUYS! Seriously, drop those expectations. Stop walking around with such high expectations! Remember this, high expectations means more disappointment. When I say drop your expectations, I do not mean lower them. No, I mean, drop those expectations on the ground and leave them there, you don’t need them! Stop. So many people will disappoint you in life, if you continue expecting so much from others.
DO NOT LIMIT YOURSELF. Stop telling yourself that you can’t do things. Stop telling yourself you can’t do things because it’s hard and you don’t where to begin. Stop being afraid of the outcome. Let me ask you this, how do you know what the outcome will be? How? You don’t. So, stop worrying about nothing. Don’t worry if you don’t know where to begin, just start. What you tell yourself, becomes your reality. So, when you tell yourself you can’t do something, it’ll be difficult for you to improve or get better at whatever it is, because you already set yourself up to fail.
YOU CAN NOT CHANGE OTHERS. Doesn’t matter who they are and what their relation is to you, you cannot change anyone. You can have an influence on someone, but you can not change them. And really, you shouldn’t try too either. We’re not robots, were not meant to be altered or changed to human liking. So, don’t try to change others to your liking or what you prefer. Be yourself also means to allow others to be themselves and show their true colours.
WORRY ABOUT YOU AND YOU ONLY. Be selfish? Oh yes, sometimes you must be a little selfish. Worry about you. Don’t worry about others and what they think about you and what you are doing. They can have their own opinion. So let them. But keep this in mind, this doesn’t mean that you need to necessarily respond to their every opinion of you. They don’t like a certain decision you have made, in certain cases, you don’t need to react or respond. Just hear them out and acknowledge that they have an opinion and do what you got to do.
MISTAKES ARE OKAY. Listen, whoever told you to try NOT to mistakes, I’m here to tell you the exact opposites. Make mistakes. I’m not encouraging purposely making mistakes. First, you cannot purposely make a mistake. If you purposely make mistake then I think that’s just ignorance, at that point. When you start telling yourself to try NOT to make mistakes, you are telling yourself that mistakes are bad. Mistakes need to be seen as positive learning opportunities for growth and development. No one ever becomes good at something by not making mistakes.
LEARN TO ACCEPT. Guys, learning to accept things for what they are is so important. It’s so healthy to accept. I once heard someone say on a podcast, “Never let your past cheat on your present or future.” For me, this meant not to dwell and think about the past, so much so that it affects my life presently and could possibly affect my future. Don’t stop to think about what you could’ve done differently. Now, sometimes these thoughts just creep up on us and then we start overthinking. But the danger is allowing our past or past mistakes run our lives. Or worse yet, allowing our past limit us from reaching our full potential.
CHALLENGE YOURSELF. Speaking of not limiting yourself to reach your full potential, this requires you step outside of your comfort zone. Challenge yourself and face your fears. Try something you’ve never done before. Do one thing a day that contributes positively to your mental health.
COMMUNICATE. This is something I am still working on. Communication. Tell someone how you feel. Often, we don’t properly communicate our feelings towards certain actions. Sometimes we don’t communicate at all. When you start to communicate and speak up about how you feel about certain matters, you are starting to let go. When you hold everything in, it will start to feel like a weight on you that you must carry around and, in some cases, may come out in a way that doesn’t seem pleasant.
NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE OKAY. Listen, everybody has their moments. If you need to have a good cry or a good rant, do what you must do. And acknowledge that these emotions or feelings are okay and normal. No need to apologize when you’re feeling this way as well. I’m still learning this myself.
FORGIVE. Remember to attain the biggest key to letting go, you must forgive. Forgiving yourself and others is key. When you forgive yourself and others you are taking the first real step in letting go. You cannot expect yourself to grow and move forward when you’re holding on to past mistakes or even negative experiences from your past. Let them go by forgiving yourself and others.
So, there it is! 10 tips that can help you to start letting go. Start incorporating some of these tips in your daily lives and you’ll see the difference. Letting go truly helps with your mental and emotional growth and development. It truly allows for growth.
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